I read the book Lost Connections by Johann Hari this year. It was a captivating read as Hari presents the science and story of depression and anxiety. This book has motivated me to focus on the connections in my life. I now try to create community in all of my work. We have a deep human need to love and be loved.... we are a people born in tribe.
I feel blessed to have found my tribe. (This was not the case when I was a teen; I moved away to boarding school due to the pain of disconnection)
Adolescents is a difficult time and many struggle with friendships. In our teen years, we discover who we are and our place in the world. It is a time of life when we to try and find a tribe. The pain of disconnection is real!
In my teen course, we talk often about the need for belonging and sometimes we choose friends for the wrong reasons. If our need for belonging is higher than our need for respect....
this is when we make bad friendship choices.
Mindful self compassion we learn to love ourselves. We make better choices when we feel we are enough!
Many of my teens start to evaluate the people in their lives from a different lens. Does this person support me? Are they kind? What do I need right now?