Wow. “If you raise your children to grow up and leave the home you have done your job.” - such a beautiful description of watching your kids grow. Be mindful and enjoy every precious moment of being a parent.
I avoid things I don’t want to do or feel! Aversion is rough- Short term benefit with long term ramifications. Clutter is a form of avoidance. “I’ll do it later.” We feel stressed about not completing tasks ... but can’t muster energy to get it done. - the inner critic feeds off aversion. “ you’re so ￼lazy... your are weak.... look at this house! “
Below are the 5 hinderances from Buddhism. Hinderances are barriers to living a mindful life.
Self compassion has been proven to be more motivating than self criticism. Self compassion can support you when you turn towards difficult tasks or emotions.
Self compassion helps with avoidance.
I can say to my self - come on you lazy piece of crap... you need to clean the sheets.
I want to give myself the gift of nice clean sheets tonight. How luxurious.
The sheets have a higher chance of getting done if I speak to myself with kindness.
When you notice you are avoiding difficult emotions or tasks. - name it to tame it.
“This is aversion” notice your discomfort. Bring kindness to yourself.